[Image description: White text on a black background, reads “Dear 14-year-old girls, You are not bisexual. Stop making a mockery of what the word actually means. You word is ‘bicurious.’ Start using it.” Parts have been crossed out in red and it has been edited to read: “Dear 14-year-old girls, You are whatever you think you are. Stop assuming you know other people’s sexual orientations better than they do. Your word is whatever you want it to be. Start using it, or not, it’s up to you.” In addition, the following text has been added to the left in red: “Funny how people never imply that a straight kid might not have enough sexual experience to know if s/he is truly attracted to just the opposite sex.” At the bottom it reads in yellow italicized text: “NO1CURR about your biphobic & ageist bullshit.” End description.]
I am bisexual and I had had crushes on both boys and girls by the time I was 14. I considered that I might be bi, but didn’t really understand it until college, partly because of the sort of nonsense expressed in this image. Most of my other gay, lesbian and bisexual friends had at least some inkling, even if they weren’t able to piece it together yet, by the time they started high school, because they had had same-sex crushes by then. I don’t understand why people think LGBA kids mature at a slower rate than heterosexual kids.
By the way, the bit on the left is not to imply that straight kids’ labels as such should not be taken seriously. I just find it quite telling that people who claim to be concerned about teens “applying labels too soon” never care when that label is “straight.” And this is despite the fact that there are probably more LGBAs who identify as “straight” at 14 (like me) than straight people identifying as gay/lesbian/bisexual/asexual at that age, since in most high schools it’s not that easy to be a queer teenager.
I personally do question whether straight kids have enough experience to know they’re not gay.